Parent's ToolKit

When a child identifies as LGBT+ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or another sexual orientation or gender identity), it’s essential to approach conversations with empathy, openness, and respect for their unique experience.

The goal is to foster a safe and supportive space where they feel comfortable being themselves and know that their feelings are heard and validated.

To help you connect with your child and better understand their experiences, here are some thoughtful questions and things you can ask or say:

Thoughtful Questions to Ask

What’s something that made you feel really seen or understood recently?
How do you feel when you're at school or with your friends?
What’s something about yourself that you wish more people understood?
Have you ever felt left out or judged? Can you tell me about that?
Are there parts of your identity or experiences you'd like to share more about?
What does support look like to you?
Is there anything I’ve said or done that didn’t feel supportive?
Who makes you feel safe? What do they do that helps?

Affirming Things to Say

“I love you exactly as you are.”
“You don’t have to go through anything alone—I'm always here for you.”
“Your feelings are valid, even if they’re hard to talk about.”
“I may not understand everything, but I want to learn and grow with you.”
“I’m proud of who you are.”
“Thank you for trusting me.”
“I’m here to listen—I love you.”

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Questions About their Identity

Discovering that your child identifies as LGBTQ can bring a mix of emotions. It's essential to approach this revelation with openness and empathy. This section offers insights into what it means for your child to identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or any other diverse sexual orientation or gender identity.

Parent Guide: LGBTQ+ Terminology

The Trevor Project’s Parents and Caregiver Resources

A comprehensive toolkit offering insights on supporting LGBTQ youth, with a focus on mental health, suicide prevention, and crisis intervention.

Features:

Educational materials on LGBTQ terminology and issues.

Tips for creating affirming environments at home.

Access to 24/7 crisis services for youth and caregivers.

Website: https://www.thetrevorproject.org

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